Competition is great, but I think it can also drive a lot of people crazy. One reason is we tend to compare ourselves to others, and I think that’s a mistake. The only person you really need to compete with, is yourself!
If you can be the best you can be, and compete with your own performance, everything else takes care of itself. You can’t help but win and eventually beat everyone else. And there’s only one thing you need to do that. That one thing is… Persistence!
It’s not something you learn, but rather develop through a burning desire. Napoleon Hill, in “Think & Grow Rich” said that desire is the starting point of all achievement. If you lack desire, well than you can’t expect to get much of anything.
Persistence is naturally developed and is fueled by this desire. Most people give up way to soon. Fact is, they lack the fire in their belly to go out and do something big. And that’s OK. We wouldn’t have the Top 1% or Top 3% if everyone had what it takes. Everyone simply can’t be at the top. However, anyone can, if they develop the persistence it takes to get there.
Persistence is the key you need to deal with and overcome failure. Here’s the problem though, and I’d go as far as to say it’s a catastrophe! We are not prepared to deal with failure. The school system and our society at large don’t teach us how to handle failure. Failure isn’t really failure at all.
I know you’ve heard this before – “You never really fail, until you quit.”
Let’s redefine failure, and call it what it really is – a setback. Have you lost money in the stock market or real estate or had a business that went bankrupt? Those aren’t failures. They’re setbacks on the road you chose to travel, and the ultimate destination is Freedom and Independence.
While most choose the so-called safe path – school, job, never risk much; just be like everyone else, etc… We as entrepreneurs chose a different route. A road filled with bumps, sharp turns, and lots of detours along the way. And those are all simply setbacks. Only they didn’t teach Failure 101 in school, which is why most aren’t prepared for it.
When I started my network marketing career, I went on 25 appointments with my little flip chart and a yellow pad. You know drawing the circles and the whole thing. And out of these 25 not a single one bought or joined. I can vividly remember telling myself – “this is going to be a little harder than I thought.” But fortunately I didn’t let that stop me. It actually ignited the fire within me, because now I had something to prove. Prove to myself that I can do this, and prove to all those people who said no.
Persistence is the key to having this attitude.
When you encounter setbacks and challenges, although it doesn’t seem like it at the moment, but they actually make you stronger and help you move faster. One of my favorite quotes and something I remind myself of very often, is one by Napoleon Hill – “Every failure brings with a seed of an equivalent advantage.” I didn’t understand this when I first read it years ago. But it’s 100% true.
Brian Tracy said it like this – “When you encounter failure, look at it as a gift from the Universe, and ask yourself – What can I learn from this?” It’s not an exact quote, but close to it. And it’s a great way to look at things. You don’t have to stress over every little setback, just look for the good in it, and what you can learn from it.
Another one of my favorites is by Tom Hopkins, and it’s so true. He says every time you fail at something, just say to yourself – “I never see failure as failure but only as the negative feedback I need to change course in my direction.”
You can tell I’m big on quotes. But there’s so much wisdom in that. I can’t tell you how many people I’ve had tell me this: “Rumont, I’m going to give this one last try, if this program doesn’t work, that’s the last time”… or something of that effect. You know what, you might as well quit right then and there. Don’t even try, because you’re obviously living in a land of wishing and hoping, and lack the desire and persistence it takes to win.
When you know exactly what you want… when you have a big ‘why’ (you know your reason why you’re going for it), you don’t stop the car when the road is closed and go back home. You look for the detour sign and another way to get there.
I recall a time I came to a realization that I was spinning my wheels in my business, because I felt frustrated and completely burned out. I didn’t quit and decide this is not for me, I simply changed course in my direction, when I discovered the power of the internet. I was willing to completely let go of what I had and go in a totally different direction, but I never deviated from my goal. And when I started online, I saw the same type of challenges. Understand that not every idea you have will turn into a paycheck. Not every ad you write or promotion you do, will be a home run. By far, not every lead you talk to will join your business.
But I actually expected that. I already knew that going in and was prepared to deal with it. Most people don’t and that’s your winning ticket. Persistence will help you overcome everything that gets thrown at you and leap ahead, while most fade away. By the way, it’s also the quality you want in the people you sponsor. It took me a really long time to finally come to grips with the reality that we don’t need everyone to join us!
You only want a certain type of person on your team. Why would you want people who will drain your energy and do nothing at the end? Don’t we want others who are like us, who have the desire, the will, the drive and the persistence it takes to win?
A lot of my frustration in my former business came from investing my emotional energy into the wrong people. Just ask any six or seven figure earner and they’ll tell you. They’re very protective of who they spend their time with. There are resources out there that teach you the psychology of sponsoring and how to attract lots of people, but the right kind of people who have what it takes to win, and weed out all the ones who’ll just drain your emotional battery, wear you out and waste your time.
Source by Rumont TeKay