Last week I had a coaching client ask a very unique question: Is there such a thing as a negative goal? I had to think about it for a couple of minutes and finally I said, “Yes, we can and often do set negative goals.”
Logically, when we think about it, setting a negative goal can sound totally counterproductive to achieving success. Who would want to intentionally make something negative, hurtful or harmful a reality? But, that’s what many of us do to ourselves. A negative goal focuses our time and energy on what we don’t want to achieve.
Here is the reasoning behind my answer: If you find yourself focusing time, attention and energy on things you don’t want instead of concentrating on those things you really do want, you’re setting a negative goal.
I’m a big believer that you get what you ask for – positive or negative. I’m also a believer in the Law of Attraction – you attract to yourself your most dominant thoughts and consistent actions.
Here’s an example of a negative goal: I hope I don’t fall behind on the business plan I have to get finished before next Thursday’s meeting.
When you read this goal, is it positive or negative? Does it sound like an empowered road map to the future? Does it sound like something motivating and empowering? Does it sound like something you’d like to make reality?
Our example focuses on making something negative reality. Remember that you get what you ask for and if you keep asking for what you don’t want, that’s what you’ll be attracting into your life.
Let’s change the example into something more positive and empowering – “I am completing the business plan before next Thursday’s morning meeting with plenty of time to spare.”
Just reading the two statements you can you see, and even feel, the shift in energy. One is negative and one is encouraging and positive. How are you phrasing and wording your goals? Are they positive or negative? Do you focus on what you want or what you don’t want?
What do you think, can we unconsciously set and achieve negative goals?